Quit

My sister had just finished her relationship with her two years boyfriend. Her boyfriend chosen his independence to pursue his dream over a marriage to her. It's a pity I once thought they were so compatible, both in a hobby and the way they live this life. However, later I learnt that it's my sister was who gave more and more while her boyfriend took more and more. I never heard any sacrifices her boyfriend did for her, instead, I heard it was her who aligned her dream and life to his.

To be honest, I can't fully blame this selfish man... The first mistake my sister has made is she doesn't have any plan or vision how to build her own independent life. She once said to me, since her boyfriend was quite good at his job and was on his way to promotion abroad, she would love to quit her job to follow him and became a full time housewife. She was just simply planned her life around her relationship, a relationship that had no guarantee to last. Then, when the relationship is no longer exist, it was her whom's hurt worse than her boyfriend, who consistently being selfish to pursue his dream and demands other to follow him.

This man now flaunts about his relieving independence in the Facebook notes. Very insensitive. I thought he just doesn't respect my sister writing such a note in the site since my sister has an access to his note. It just like as if he is really happy to be freed. Long before this, I was quit annoyed by his notes who potrayed himself as a mature and positive person while I knew from my sister that actually he is totally an opposite an immature selfish person.

And here my sister again, made the second mistake. She shared her breakdown publicly in this site too. So in the site people can watch the crying-ruined-woman and the strong-positive-full-of-dream man. I thought it's a bad publicity for her. If she was my 'real' sister, I will said to her to get rid all the whines and cries, and start to plan her own life. No need to waste tears for a narcisstic guy like him (and ugly, too :P)

But she is not my real sister. She is living in a family where what the people say is very important. Her family style is literally digest what people say and assume that what they hear is the truth. It's very naive since many people just say and think differently. So it's very important for her to hear good supporting words in her public account, though it means his boyfriend has an access to her downslide.

It's sad, I sympathize with her. But it's totally unwise and not an elegant way to quit.